Today me and my wife spent the day listening to each other. Over coffee and cake, we had a pleasant afternoon revealing how we feel without judging or being defensive. Listening builds trust (B. Tracy).
Some tips I learned from Brian Tracy:
1. Do not cut the other person's sentence, instead pause after he/she speaks before you reply. This way the person you are talking to knows that you are thinking about what was said. And you actually get to sink in what was expressed to your heart and mind.
2. Ask Questions. To clarify by asking who, what, when, and where helps in getting the message right. It also signals the one you are listening to your genuinely being attentive.
3. Paraphrase. In your own words, tell the person what you have understood. Through this, he/she is convinced that you understand the explanation or the narration.
The ratio of listening to speaking should be 2:1, since we have 2 ears and 1 mouth. This way, we care, we learn and we gain wisdom.
Is our listening to others sincere? How much time do we spend listening to God?
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Some tips I learned from Brian Tracy:
1. Do not cut the other person's sentence, instead pause after he/she speaks before you reply. This way the person you are talking to knows that you are thinking about what was said. And you actually get to sink in what was expressed to your heart and mind.
2. Ask Questions. To clarify by asking who, what, when, and where helps in getting the message right. It also signals the one you are listening to your genuinely being attentive.
3. Paraphrase. In your own words, tell the person what you have understood. Through this, he/she is convinced that you understand the explanation or the narration.
The ratio of listening to speaking should be 2:1, since we have 2 ears and 1 mouth. This way, we care, we learn and we gain wisdom.
Is our listening to others sincere? How much time do we spend listening to God?
Sent from my BlackBerry® wireless handheld
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